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When it comes to relationships and dating, they both have one thing in common: The chase. You may think its cliché, but it couldn't be any closer to the truth when trying to keep your man. I have a friend that is a serial dater. Most of her relationships do not last longer than three- months. Why, you ask? Her main drawback is her insecurities and behavior of desperation. To protect the name of the innocent, we will call my friend Debbie.
When Debbie met Chris at a singles event, he asked her out for dinner. At dinner, everything seems to run smoothly and the conversation is excellent. Debbie alters the subject matter to the topic of the future. After Chris divulges his plans for the future, Debbie feels self-confident enough to tell him about what she wants in the future. "Well, I pretty much have my life all mapped out," she says assertively, staring into his captivating eyes, "I want to be married by thirty and have kids at thirty-two." Instantly, Chris sees the red flag flash in front of his face. He begins to feel apprehensive and panicky while sitting at the table with Debbie, eyeing his way for the nearest exit. Chris initially wanted to get to know Debbie, not be hooked into a predisposed permanent commitment. Meanwhile, Debbie tells everyone that the date went really well, and she hopes to see Chris again. After a few days pass of unreturned phone calls, Debbie can't understand what she did wrong. The first thing women should know is to NEVER tell a man what Debbie told Chris on the first date. This is the foremost and most unambiguous away to scare off any future prospects. Men do not want to feel trapped into knowing that a few dates will constitute in marriage. Now, let us get back to Debbie. This situation persists until she meets Mark. He sees past her flaws and willingly gives her a chance. Debbie and Mark begin to date exclusively. Finally, Debbie feels that she has met a man that she can develop a real relationship with. She considers herself comfortable enough to call him more then four times a day for no real reason, or to nag him when he wants to hang out with someone other than herself. It gets to the point where Mark vanishes without warning. Debbie is left with the same bewilderment she had with Chris, what did she do wrong? Ladies, men love the thrill of the chase, although sometimes it may not seem that way when you first start dating. The quickest way to lose your man at the beginning of a relationship is to show that you are hard up or much too interested. You know the saying, "Man love what they can't have." It's a dead ringer for the truth. If you show that you have a life with friends or activities outside the relationship, you will draw more wanted attraction to yourself. It seems tedious that we have to play games to win over the ones we desire most, but dating and love is a two-player game. If you play the game right, you will win at an exciting and fulfilling love life.
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