Sex is a physical and emotional need. On every list of human needs that you will find, sex is on there, which may surprise you. When you have a spouse that does not want to have sex very often you may feel that you are being deprived not only of something that you would like, but something that you need, and you would be right. It can be hard to stay in a relationship and continue to be happy when you don't feel like you are getting enough sex.
Before you consider divorce or you consider cheating, which is what a lot of people think about when they are not getting enough sex, you should stop and think about what you want. Many times we know that our spouse does not like to have sex often and this creates the problem. Instead of dwelling on the fact that your spouse doesn't want to have sex as much as you, you need to define what you want and what you need. When you know what you want and need you will be able to articulate it to your spouse to see if you cannot come to some sort of agreement as to something that will work for the both of you.
Now that you have decided what you want and need in the way of sexual contact, it is time to talk to your spouse. You need to tell them how you are feeling, but don't be accusatory or place blame. Let them know that you want and need to be close to them physically and that you don't feel like you are getting enough of that contact. Lay out for them what you feel you need and what you want and see if you cannot work together to make the both of you happy.
If your spouse doesn't respond favorably, now is the time when you can get angry. You have reached out to your spouse and you have tried to make things work. Your next step is to think about ways in which you may be able to stay in the relationship while continuing to fulfill your sexual needs. You may find that masturbation is a viable option, or you may want to talk to your spouse about an open relationship so you can get the physical contact that you need while continuing with your current relationships.
Many people who don't have the problem of not having enough sex don't realize exactly how devastating this can be to a relationship. Many people who cannot get their spouse to work with them end up leaving because they want to feel attractive and valued. You need to decide what you are willing to deal with, without giving up what you need. Sex is an important part of a relationship and you never need to feel badly about wanting to have sex, remember this is a true need of a human being, despite what your spouse may tell you and you need to do what is right for you!
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Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.
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