Do you find that you have fallen into somewhat of a pattern because you know what works and what doesn't and so you just stick with that? This is very normal when you are in a long term relationship, but it doesn't mean that you have to be bored and not look forward to sex as much as you once did. Did you know that when you are in a committed relationship that sex can actually be better than it was when you weren't?
The great thing about knowing what works for the other person in bed is that you will always know how to please them. Another awesome thing about having sex with the same person all the time is that you develop a new comfort level that will allow you to try new things or ask for things without feeling silly or uncomfortable. Many people fail to realize that the comfort level can actually be a good thing rather than something that makes them so bored they don't want to have sex!
Instead of getting into bed tonight and just going through the motions, slow things down. Try different foreplay techniques, whisper into your partners ear, and just bring a different feeling or pace to the situation. You may find that this will help you change things up and therefore spice things up a bit.
Still bored? Why not buy a book of sexual positions and share it with your partner. Look through the book together and pick out positions that you would like to try. Instead of doing the same old same old, you can try something new. This will have both of you looking forward to having sex, and then when you do have your very familiar sex it will be nice, too. Just finding ways to change things up can really add a whole new element of fun to the bedroom, even if you are in a long term relationship.
Another idea is to share your fantasies with one another. Share what you want or what you have always thought would be sexy or fun. Just sharing these ideas can be refreshing, but if you are willing to act them out you will find that there is a whole new level of excitement and sexual openness in your relationship that keeps you coming back for more year after year, even if things can be a bit predictable from time to time.
Sex in a long term relationship doesn't have to be boring, so don't sell yourself on this idea. You just need to learn how to make it work for you and take advantage of the familiarity and comfort in the bedroom.
Author Resource:-
Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance personal ads for singles.
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