There's goes another one: a beautiful woman you'd love to approach and strike up a conversation with if only you knew what the heck to say.
There's goes another one: another missed opportunity for what could be a beautiful relationship.
If picking up women is a mystery to you, don't be too hard on yourself. It's that way for many men.
That's why we've come up with the following 4 critical steps for successfully picking up women.
1. Practice - Practice really does make perfect. Practice talking to women in general throughout your day - whether you find them attractive or not. You're not picking up these women, you're just practicing talking to them. In fact, you might find it easiest to start by practicing talking to women you don't want to go out with. Talk to the waitress or cashier. Talk to the women in line with you. Talk to the women waiting for the bus with you, or sitting next to you on the bus. Just practice. You'll be surprised at how much more comfortable you'll become talking to the women you want to be picking up when you've had ample practice talking to women who you don't.
Practice as well when by yourself, if possible in front of a mirror. Listen to how your voice sounds when you say "Hi" and introduce yourself. Watch you facial expressions and other body language.
2. Relax - Get into the habit of doing something to calm your nerves every time you see a beautiful woman. Notice if any of your limbs are shaking nervously, or if you're fidgeting, and make it stop. Breathe deeply several times, into the belly. You can even close your eyes for several seconds and do some peaceful, relaxing visualizations (if circumstances allow). Give yourself some calming affirmations to run through your mind when you see an attractive woman.
No doubt, a certain degree of nerves is to be expected, and the right women find it cute. But too much anxiety reeks of insecurity and is a bigger obstacle to picking up women than anything you could possibly say wrong.
3. Open Your Mouth - At some point you're just going to have to bite the bullet and actually do it. Go up to a woman you find attractive and say something. Hopefully by now you've practiced enough to feel somewhat comfortable with what you might say and hopefully you've relaxed enough that you'll be able to let your natural attractiveness shine through. But you can't sit on the bench forever, because that's how life - including a romantic life - passes you right by.
Remember, picking up women successfully requires that you at least try.
4. Be Good to Yourself - Part of picking up women successfully is how you handle yourself after you approach a woman and don't get the response you'd hoped for. If not getting the desired response is enough to keep you from ever trying again, you may as well give up attempting to pick up women now and save yourself the heartache and grief.
Because the simple truth is, you're not always going to get the response you want. Oh well. Chalk it up to more practice. It doesn't say anything about you as a person that a woman you were attracted to was not attracted to you.
That's about her. The only time it says something about you is if you let it get you down so much that you'd rather not try picking up women at all rather than forging ahead and continuing to give it your best. Then there's no advice that can help you.
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